This is the journey of Dave which started in the Winter of 2024. Dave trained through the winter for his annual race, the Lake Sammamish Half-Marathon, between Redmond and Issaquah. He thought his slow time was due to getting older and the dad-bod. 1:58:30 A month later, we would know why he was in pain following the run and no amount of ibuprofen, or rolling out the muscles would help.
CRC is the third most commonly diagnosed cancer and the third most common cause of cancer-related death in both men and women in the United States. However, it
ranks second in cancer-related deaths overall and is the leading cause of cancer death in men younger than 50 years of age.
More than half of all CRCs are attributable to modifiable risk factors, such as smoking, an unhealthy diet, high alcohol consumption, physical inactivity, and excess body weight.
NOT DAVE
In addition, a large proportion of CRC incidence and mortality is preventable through the receipt of regular screening (also NOT DAVE), surveillance, and high-quality treatment
Dave and I were together for nearly 25 years. We have three children, now in their late teens and early twenties. Dave worked for 27 years at AT&T Mobility and during that time we lived in Seattle, Washington Roswell, Georgia,
Ellicott City, Maryland, Sunnyvale, Texas and
Redmond, Washington.
This isn't a story about me. It's Dave's story from my point of view. And it's a story I hope others will not live through.
This website is Informational Only. These are my thoughts and questions during Dave's journey and after his passing.
No advice, no contacts, no responses to questions. This is NOT a healing journey. It is a death journey.
This is a call out - IF YOU LOVE THEM, get them tested!
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by Siddhartha Mukherjee
This is the only book I read about Cancer and I didn't read it until a few months after Dave had passed. Dave's brother read it several years ago, as the book was published in 2010. He re-read it while Dave was in the hospital.
by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
This book was recommended by Dave's palliative care doctor. (More on her later in the Angel's section...) I starting reading this at home. I couldn't read it while I was with Dave, although we did talk about some of the passages and themes in the book.
by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
I read this in June 2024 and underlined a few things. I read it again in October 2024 and even more of the text made sense.
Read the quotes from Grief in Six Words and then be inconsolable for the next hour. If I ever feel numb to the world, this does wonders.
We were able to chose between the Seattle and Issaquah hospitals. Kinda, sorta. We ended up in Issaquah, 30 minutes from home.
Everyone has a story. But, how many wives are arguing with the front desk staff, "...so there IS a triage list and my husband's at the end because he has f*kn Stage 4???" Not my proudest moment...but I did get an Angel.
Dave's Oncologist and Palliative doctors worked to provide pain relief and treatment. But when the pain relief prevents the treatment from working, or the treatment causes unintended pain, and the pain becomes too much to bear, then we conceded to hospice care.
There be Angels here.
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